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New Year, Same Grief

Grief is a funny thing. It's usually broken down into a multiple step process that begins with denial and ends with acceptance. But what they don't tell you is that grief is cyclical. It's totally possible to feel grief and go through the steps more than once, even multiple times throughout the day. Grief is an emotion that cam come in waves, wash over you, and leave you feeling confused, sad, even angry. All of those feelings are what many of us like to push down and bury inside because it's easier to go about the day pretending they don't exist. Pretending like everything is fine so people don't ask questions. Masking emotions is a well learned trait many of us have, but isn't healthy for us. And masking grief can be a dangerous thing.

With the new year upon us, everyone is looking forward to leaving 2022 behind in the dust. New Years often bring hope to a lot of folks that are looking for a clean slate, a chance to start over and fresh. But for many, myself included, the new year can be another reminder of the passing of time without a loved one, a relationship lost, or grieving the person you used to be. Carrying grief over into the new year is a heavy burden that a lot of people deal with but don't know how to express. It could start with something as little as journaling about what you're feeling and writing out what you wish would happen or who you wish were here. Or you could go as big as screaming into the void all of your frustrations and sadness until your lungs give out. Both are good options.

I hope in the new year you find a way to express your grief in a healthy way. No one needs to keep all of that cooped up inside. Sharing our grief is the best way to make the burden lighter. Happy and Hopeful New Years to all.

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